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Attachment Parenting Older Children: Alternative Education

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Attachment Parenting Older Children: Alternative Education
Attachment Parenting Older Children: Alternative Education

Attachment Parenting Older Children: Alternative Education

Practicing attachment parenting generally leads to a great deal of research. In addition to simply wanting to be well choices, I’ve found myself researching parenting topics regularly for many reasons. Family and friends tend to come to me for advice and information because they know I’ll find the most accurate available. This led me to further research in college, focusing most of my electives in psychology and education. You’d be surprised how much a thorough knowledge of such topics helps in political advocacy, as well.

Whether you practice Attachment Parenting or not, your children’s education is probably very important to you. Most parents still think their choices revolve around money. The options seem to be public or private school. More and more and consider homeschooling as well. What most people don’t realize is that the choices aren’t that cut and dry. If none of those options seem to fit your needs quite right, you don’t have to settle.

While money can play a part, the main concern is how active you want to be in your child’s upbringing and education. There is a spectrum that ranges from boarding schools and nannies to unschooling.

Boarding School

In the united states, most boarding schools are limited to 9th grade and up but there are a few for younger children if you’re really determined. Boarding and connections that help them in their future careers. They are also known to be outstandingly expensive and provide minimal opportunities for parents to guide and interact with their own children during.

Public School

Public schooling is a social welfare program every state in the United States is required to offer. Public school is available in some states as young as two or three years old, and through twenty-one. The varies more widely in public schools than any other educational option. Children may be offered horribly neglectful and abusive school years or incredibly uplifting opportunities to improve themselves, and this can vary from one teacher to another within the same school. Parents have no say in what academics or morals their children are taught and there have been national cases where parents were tried for trying to keep their children from being taught morally objectionable messages. Public schools in many areas expect parents to pay out constantly, but as a welfare program they cannot actually require payment from low income families. In such cases, they are required to offer alternative programs. Public schools usually welcome parentally involvement and volunteering. While some even expect it, few require parental involvement. One of the main reasons public school is so popular is that it is a free way to pass off most of the responsibility for a child’s upbringing. As such, it can be nearly impossible to force or coerce parental involvement at times. This program is earnestly needed by many parents throughout the nation, but it is also filled with children whose families are perfectly capable of raising them without assistance.

Private School

Private schools are run by private organizations and individuals. As such, they are operated on different legal standards than public schools. They can be very expensive but often have scholarship programs for children with financial need or high academic performance. They generally offer more effective teaching methods and more talented teachers than public schools. They almost always have specialized curriculum. This can range from academic focus to religious foundations. Private schools can vary greatly in their desire for parental involvement. Some prefer parents to simply pay them enough to hire the best mentors as staff. Others require parents to volunteer in their children’s classes and throughout the school.

Dual Enrollment

Many public and some private schools allow children to enroll part time. In such cases, the school teaches one or more specific subjects and the parents are responsible for the rest of their children’s upbringing. In such cases, parents often have to prove they are teaching their children using methods the school approves of. This method is great for but doubt their abilities in some areas. Generally, dual enrollment students enroll mostly in electives and extra-curriculars like band or sports. This is a less expensive than enrolling in community or private programs and can be a huge help to homeschoolers on a budget. It is usually free, and at least much less expensive than full time enrollment. Plus, it allows much more

Co-op

A co-op is a group of of their children. They are sometimes organized as private schools legally, but usually just another way homeschoolers can organize parts of their children’s schooling. Generally, each parent takes one subject they are knowledgeable about. All the children will be dropped off at that person’s house, or another designated location, for classes. Classes often meet daily, with each parent taking one day per week. Children are not generally subject to the age segregation of other classroom situations, making both the teacher and student’s job much easier. Costs are nominal for small co-ops, but administrative fees can become costly with large ones. This is the most involved a parent can be in their child’s upbringing while still utilizing the classroom organization mainstream America thinks children need to learn.

Charter School

A charter school is another form of public school. With the exception of academic charters, they look little to nothing like the standard school model. Families typically fight for the opportunity to enroll their children in these schools when they are available. They can look like anything from a science lab to a farm to something from a sci-fi novel. They can also look just like homeschooling. Homeschool is a legal designation, not an educational method. Many charter schools will provide parents with their choice of curriculum and supplies. They provide teachers for advice and often even offer extra-curricular programs as well as academic classes. Children are welcome to participate in such programs, but not required to. They also allow the state partial control in children’s upbringing. advisors regularly to prove their children’s progress. Sometimes this means proving what they’ve been learning but all too often it means proving they’ve been producing a set amount of busy work, regardless of what they’ve actually learned. Still, if a family naturally follows methods and patterns similar to the standard classroom model, this option can be a huge help.

Distance Education

Not only college students can attend school from home. There are a variety of distance based private schools, and even a few public ones. While living like homeschoolers, such children may be considered to be legally enrolled in a public or private school. Most private distance education programs actually offer no legal advantage to homeschooling though. Most people seem to think their children will be legally considered private school students if their school is accredited. This is simple not true. Accreditation is granted by private institutions, not the state or federal government. In fact, none of the major distance learning programs for K-12 students are accredited by an agency recognized by *any* state in the United States, or on the federal recommendation list. They are also known for being very expensive. Some are Internet based. While others ship their products to the family and have them report manually. That said, these programs can still be a wonderful tool. Handing authority over to someone else can ease tensions over school matters significantly. Children are still in the home, being raised by their parents. They are still learning the majority of their morality from reputable sources, and they can be monitored as their developmental level requires.

Boxed Curriculum

programs are boxed curriculum. These products come with everything you need to teach your children, and instructions on how to do so. There are a wide variety available, as well. Some can be customized to children’s strengths and weaknesses, too. They are typically very expensive, though. Since parents aren’t reporting to anyone, they are able to adjust the lessons and progression to meet their children’s needs. These can also be mixed and matched to meet individual needs, both in level and products used for different subjects.

Parent Designed Curriculum

Many parents don’t have the money for boxed curriculum or don’t like the busy work they typically employ. Such parents design their own lessons. Designing lessons is very simple. There is a wealth of resources both for design and activities available to parents. Parents that design their own lessons typically don’t separate topics into school subjects as clearly. A child can learn Language Arts, Math, Social Studies, and Science in the same lesson for example.

Unschooling

Unschooling is often also referred to as Child-Led learning and looks differently in each house. In some homes, children are expected to complete the right to choose the methods and/or topics they learn about themselves. In some homes, children are not expected to complete school work at all. Instead they are taught by hands on real world methods, and usually allowed to choose their areas of interest. From the outside, these families often look as if they are simply neglecting their children’s education. Often, these children learn at very inconsistent rates. Sometimes they will fall well behind their peers in difficult subjects for years. At some point, these children eventually find an internal desire to learn what they don’t know. Either they just gain an interest, or they develop a goal that necessitates certain knowledge. Rest assured, what it takes the rest of society 12 years of can actually be learned in just a few months when they are more mature and motivated. Unschooling is much easier and less expensive than any other means of education. Successful unschooling necessitates a high level of parental involvement, since most learning is from conversations and activities. It is only for confident parents, though. It can be downright nerve racking to deal with doubters when you don’t have written proof of your child’s abilities. Worse yet, self doubt can gnaw at your confidence in your choices.

Educational Neglect

While I don’t really consider this an option, it should be brought up. The less an education method looks like what someone is used to, the more likely they are to think that education is being neglected. Educational neglect means withholding education from your children. Teaching them differently is not neglectful. Most of the education laws in the United States are meant to reduce educational neglect. There are laws on every type of schooling. Public schools have waste more and more classroom time to teach kids to pass tests just to keep their funding. Private schools have to monitor and report on family and health information they have no business even knowing. Homeschools have to constantly prove themselves, even being forced to submit to regular home inspections in some areas. The problem with all these laws is that the people that abide by them are the ones doing what they’re supposed to. The ones that are neglectful simply fly under the radar. We are crippling our ability to raise intelligent children in the hopes of helping those that aren’t affected by our efforts. Instead of reporting your local homeschoolers or voting in tighter restrictions on your local schools, think about what you are trying to achieve and whether your actions will have any effect on that problem.

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Is Technology in Education Causing Child Parent Stress?

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Is Technology in Education Causing Child  Parent Stress?
Is Technology in Education Causing Child Parent Stress?

Is Technology in Education Causing Child Parent Stress?

After only eight days of school, our two middle school children are bogged down with multiple projects, lengthy reading expectations and nightly homework in multiple subjects. After arriving home at 4PM, our children immediately hit the books and read, study, research and complete homework until 9:30PM or later. There is a disconnect occurring between who have so much homework to complete that home chores, interaction and family time are pushed to the back burner. Replacing social communication are deadlines, research projects, reading lists, quizzes and tests.

The Link Between Technology and Parent / Child Stress

Researching online is quicker and easier than walking, riding or driving to the local library and searching through books, magazines and microfiche. Children of today need only a personal computer and Internet connection to gain access to the largest library ever created, but does that mean teachers are becoming more dependent on the Internet as a resource and thus expecting children to do more outside of school than in previous years and generations?

and the school system, but when expectations outside of school hours become so overpowering that children are left with no down time and no time with family without worrying about deadlines and grades, there is a disconnect that will occur between parents and children.

How Our Family is Dealing With Increased Expectation and Technology

As a family, we are tired of spending five days a week working full-time only to be responsible for all chores in a household of six people. Chores are important to teach children responsibility and no advances in that fact. We are working with our children on choosing project themes that require no Internet access or detailed research. Just because the Internet is available does not mean it is the best source of information.

We will soon begin walking to the library a couple of days a week so our older children can work with media hands on as opposed to virtually. Research days for projects will be limited to one to two days a week and no school work is allowed on Sundays – our family’s day of rest and relaxation together without expectation.

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Music Education for Children

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Music Education for Children
Music Education for Children

Music Education for Children

The music begins

When you bring home the… guitar, trumpet, piano, drums, fill in your choice, there is a look of awe and wonder in their eyes. They can’t wait to get their little paws on the thing. Even as you are explaining how to handle the instrument, they are blocking out your annoying parental tones and grabbing for it; ready to rock. They proudly boast to anyone who will listen, that they are taking music lessons. The on the first day. To you, it is the sound of brilliance in the making. You want anyone who will listen to join in celebrating the best three notes of music ever played. Out comes the video phone and soon your little Mozart, your Louis Armstrong, your Taylor Swift is on facebook and youtube. (Justin Bieber was discovered on youtube, after all).

But then there’s homework
“I’ll practice everyday”, is what you were promised; as your little angel pleaded in the store. However, beyond practicing, your child must learn music theory. It starts to resemble school. None of their friends have to endure this abuse. Your little Mozart becomes distracted, and the resistance begins: “do I have to practice?”, “I’ll practice later“, “I’ve practiced enough.” Eventually there is the inevitable ear crunching, heart shredding: I HATE PRACTICING. I DON’T WANT TO PLAY THIS STUPID INSTRUMENT. I’M QUITTING! You cringe as you consider the monetary investment. You argue, demand and threaten until eventually Mozart marches to the instrument and defiantly slams out the assigned music 10 times faster than it’s meant to be played. You begin to weaken: does the world really need another piano player? Will the world end if Suzie is not strumming her way through it?

Do you give up or do you go on?

Consider this: I’ve never met an adult who could play an instrument who said, “I wish I didn’t know how to play…” the violin, sitar, bagpipes, harp, etc. There are two things I have heard: “I’m glad my parents made me stay with it” and “I wish my parents had made me stay with it”.

My stepson is the inspiration for this article. Like his father, he is a drummer. Because of dad, he started younger than most. He was banging on his first drum at one and was responsible for a daily drum practice at three. 15 minutes was all I required; at seven it became 30 minutes. I was the bad guy. I insisted, I pushed, at times I wavered, but endured. He’s 12 now and loves being a drummer; loves being the kid at school who did drum solos for talent shows. A year ago he made the mistake of showing potential on the piano…and so, once more, the cycle began. However, for the most part, we have made it to the other side. My stepson is now aware of his talent and sees himself as a musician. The practices come easier these days and more often than not, unsolicited.

The benefits
Playing a musical instrument develops self esteem, social skills, from abusing drugs and alcohol. I see discipline, confidence and creativity in my stepson that has been enhanced by music. Please visit: www.childrensmusicworkshop.com/advocacy/benefits.html. (no apostrophe s) There you will find videos as well as the results of studies, showing how children succeed in school and in life because of music.
It’s a personal decision whether or not to force your child to stick with an instrument. I recommend enduring. The battle may be long; I stuck with it for years, but you’ll see great things develop in your child and they’ll even thank you for making them stay the course; one day…

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Southern Illinois Child Advocacy Center Promotes Education, Safety

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Southern Illinois Child Advocacy Center Promotes Education, Safety
Southern Illinois Child Advocacy Center Promotes Education, Safety

Southern Illinois Child Advocacy Center Promotes Education, Safety

Tragedy in Mount Vernon led to the creation of The Amy Center and tragedy keeps it in business, but Director Ladonna Richards finds comfort in the fact that the center is

The Amy Center is one of only six child advocacy centers in Southern Illinois and it was the first in the region. Named for then 10-year-old Amy Schulz who was raped, sodomized and murdered, The Amy Center serves seven counties around Mount Vernon and more than 200 children a year.

Schulz’ father Dennis and State Rep. Kurt Granberg (D-Centralia) began the center in 1990. Last year, the center served 238 children. Of that, 128 required forensic interviews, the interview to determine if they have been sexually abused.

Richards said this year, the center is on pace to surpass that mark, having already done more than 100 forensic interviews. “We only take referrals from the Department of Child and Family services and from law enforcement, so that cuts our numbers down some,” she said.

The expense of exams and interviews, as well as the likelihood of false accusations, is why the center chooses not to accept private referrals. “We let the investigators who are trained do the actual investigating and determine if there is enough information to warrant our involvement,” she said.

The center simply cannot cover any more area because children and their representatives are having to travel so long to the very emotional and difficult interviews. “We just can’t ask people to drive an hour and a half to put them through this,” she said. “Some of our counties are more than an hour away.”

That creates a problem because there is a strip of counties across central Illinois without any advocacy centers for the children. In those cases, law enforcement officials simply call the nearest center and beg for help. “We cover them when we can,” she said.

The Amy Center began with a single forensic investigator and now has three trained investigators on staff, both because of the client load and to give investigator’s a break between cases.

Richards said as one of the investigators, she finds the job difficult but rewarding. “When you see that look on a child’s face that says they trust you and know you are there to help them, it’s worth every second of the effort,” she said. Sometimes, that means children open up enough to reveal the details of the abuse. Other times, it means they open enough to show that there isn’t any abuse happening.

The center video tapes, through hidden cameras almost like nanny-cams, the interview sessions and provides a dvd copy of the interview to local authorities for use in the case. Center personnel also help prepare children when they will be forced to testify in court and attends court hearings with the children.

“The one thing we don’t do is counseling. We believe that someone needs to be very specialized to counsel children after they have been abused and we refer to outside agencies, as close to their home community as we can,” she said.

The center also provides community to identify abuse. “We teach good touch, bad touch, but also good touch, confusing touch,” she said.

The difference is that some forms of abuse begin as touches that don’t fit the classic definition of “bad touch”, but make the child confused or uncomfortable. Through school visits, the center helps children from preschool age to sixth grade identify and appropriately confront things that make them uncomfortable, she said.

“The problem is, we aren’t even getting into all the schools in our area and it’s still a two year rotation,” she said. The center also offers a pre-dating safety class for children in seventh and eighth grade, covering issues like date rape drugs and how drugs use and alcohol use can affect the decisions a person makes about their sexuality. At first, Richards said, the center stuck to public schools, but then

“We’re also finding that by seventh and eighth grade, we’re sometimes too late. We find that a lot of children are already sexually active at that age,” she said.

The Amy Center is funded almost entirely through grants, with some support coming from local donations. Usually, the donations come in the form of items the center can use, Richards said.

“WE find a lot of people know that we give the children a toy after their interview, so we get a lot of stuffed animals,” she said. “I hate to sound ungrateful, but there are a lot of other things we could use more.”

Children visiting the center range in age from 3 to 15, she said, and the older children are mostly girls. “Sometimes, depending on who might see them, they’ll take a stuffed animal, but a lot of time we need something to give as a gift tot he older children.”

Richards suggested many of the victims come from underprivileged families and would appreciate something as simple as a bottle of lotion from Bath & Body Works at the mall. “Even a little $3 sample bottle would be something that was all theirs,” she said.

People wishing to donate items for The Amy Center may want to consider items from the following list, Richards said.
“We can always use office supplies or gift cards to Wal-Mart, K-Mart or Staples,” she said.

Other items the center frequently needs are:
Stamps
Recordable dvds
gift bags (for wrapping Christmas presents)
school supplies/book bags
toiletries suitable for pre-teens and young teenagers
“Really, what we are lacking the most if small gift items that will appeals to 10 to 15 year olds, mostly girls,” Richards said.
To donate, contact the center at (618) 244-2100.